No One Told Me: The Quiet Art of Being Ignored

He said, “No one told me.”
But the truth is, I did.
I told him. I always told him. He just never listened.

This is what covert emotional neglect looks like — not yelling, not chaos, but being slowly erased by someone who treats your voice like background noise. Over time, their refusal to listen becomes your burden. You try harder. Repeat yourself. Over-explain. Carry the mental load for both of you.

But when someone says “no one told me,” what they often mean is:

“I didn’t care enough to listen. I didn’t see you as someone worth remembering.”

It’s not about the small logistics of daily life — it’s about power, dismissal, and the quiet exhaustion of always having to prove you matter.

So now? I tell myself. I listen to me. I don’t explain my choices to someone who tuned me out for years. Let him say no one told him.

No one is me.
And I’m done being invisible.